(By: Tyler Raiman - 006)
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In all of our daily lives, we
fail. We fail when we drop something onto the ground. We
fail when we forget to buy something at the grocery store. We
fail when we think negatively of ourselves. However, what many of us forget to realize after all of these failures is that we
never give up on ourselves. After these hundreds of small mistakes we make, we still go to sleep and wake up the next day, ready for any challenge life might throw our way.
The only time we can actually fail is if we give up. As long as you are on this earth, you have something about yourself that you can improve on. Whether that be your body, mindset, or relationships, no matter how old or young, you still have time to make a difference. Actor
Denzel Washington said,
“To get something you never had, you must do something you never did.” As humans, we must take risks and step out of our comfort zones because we will constantly live in a state of convenience and comfort without it. Motivational speaker
David Goggins said in his book "
Can't Hurt Me,"
“You are in danger of living a life so comfortable and soft that you will die without ever realizing your true potential."
(Denzel Washington speaking at a college graduation)

(David Goggins running an ultra marathon called Badwater 135 through Death Valley, California)
To give some examples of people who took risks and stepped out of their comfort zones:
Famous baseball player
Reggie Jackson struck out 2,597 times throughout his career. However, we do not remember him for his strikeouts but as one of the greatest baseball players ever to live. Someone who earned 5 World Series titles, hit
563 home runs, and led his team to many victories throughout his career. Reggie Jackson is a perfect example of someone who took risks as a black baseball player, stepped out of his comfort zone, and knew his strikeouts, yet never gave up due to these various factors.

(Reggie Jackson)
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Rosa Parks, an activist for the Civil Rights Movement, was criticized, shunned, and jailed for fighting for what she believed in: equal rights for all. She went against the grain,
refused to give up her seat on that Montgomery, Alabama, bus, and sparked a movement that changed many black people’s lives across the country. However, we do not remember Rosa Parks for these failures and setbacks that others imposed on her. We remember her as “the mother of the civil rights movement.” An influential human who will forever be in the history books because of her desire to step out of her comfort zone and take a risk that everybody else was too scared to take. She never gave up.

(Rosa Parks on a bus)
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And famous inventor
Thomas Edison, who reportedly failed 1,000 experiments before the 1,001st, invented the lightbulb. Edison was faced with failure after failure trying to find the right materials, trying to make the proper electrical system, and the competition from other inventors trying to beat him. Throughout all of these failures, however, Edison learned from his failures and never gave up. Today, we do not remember him as a failure but as one of the greatest inventors ever. Edison had a significant quote that relates to today’s topic regarding failure.
He said,
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” He never defined himself by his failures, and most importantly, never gave up.

(Thomas Edison holding a lightbulb)
In society today, failure is often stigmatized. Many people get criticized for trying something that doesn’t work. We are held to society's standard to be perfect. Because of this, we are often afraid to begin. Social media gives us the idea that everyone always succeeds, except you, is winning at life.
People post their abundance of money, shiny cars, massive houses, and lavish vacations, yet never show the work it took to reach that point. They never show the stress, the hard nights, the setbacks, the self-doubt, and most importantly, the failures. Because along every path, there will be failures. You need to start somewhere instead of nowhere and try something. Denzel Washington said, "
Dreams without goals are just dreams…
Without commitment, you will never start, but without consistency, you will never finish."

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Now that we have established what it means to fail, I want to highlight the history of the word failure. In Kieren Setiya’s book, “Life is Hard,” he writes that the word failure was introduced in the mid-1800s. Conveniently enough, industrialization, urbanization, and the rise of big businesses were all coming together during this time. Many people around the United States were failing not only due to their physically demanding jobs, unlivable wages, and flawed social conditions, but also because they could not see a positive direction in their lives. In the 1920s, consumerism was no longer an idea of the past but a
symbol of middle-class wealth and prosperity.
Americans were beginning to define themselves based on their credit scores, income, and how much was in their bank balance. Former slave,
Frederick Douglass, said the only way people defined success was by
“WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK.” (p. 114)Today, one more element was added to the list of everything I had discussed: social media. “How good can you make yourself look” for someone else's feed has had a monumental impact on children, teens, and even some adults in the modern age. Showing how, on top of the economic-centric society we live in today, even more pressure is being added on people every generation

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Setiya says in a quote:
“If we remembered even a fraction of our million tiny plans, our whole lives would be regret at their failure.” p. 92This quote couldn’t be more accurate. How many plans have you created for yourself or others that do not work out or have failed? Probably many of these, however, you don’t define yourself based on these failures, and instead, continue forward with your life.
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So this begs the question, then.
How should we live our lives?
Well, we should not live our lives like it is supposed to be a linear series of events with an exposition, rising action, climax, falling action, and resolution. This just isn’t realistic and will set us up for failure.

Setiya highlights a concept by Aristotle that involves two different types of activities:
Telic and Atelic.
Telic activities are those with a definitive beginning and end goal, like walking from one place to another, marriage, and having kids; they all eventually end.
However,
atelic activities, including walking, thinking, and talking, can continue forever.
In modern society, humans are so focused on
telic activities with a goal that they forget to embrace the process and just want to get to the end.
We set these goals we know we can attain, achieve them, have a feeling of happiness for a couple of minutes, maybe hours, and then… well, nothing.
Satisfaction is either in the future or in the past with telic activities.
Atelic activities allow you to learn and value the process, but most importantly, how to live in the present. You are no longer searching for an end goal because the goal is the process. It gives you a new perspective on life and allows you more grace and room for error.
What About Some Other Philosophers in History Who Also Have Input on Failure?
Marcus Aurelius, emperor of Rome, in his Meditations, wrote,
“Observe, in short, how transient and trivial is all mortal life; yesterday a drop of semen, tomorrow a handful of spice and ashes…” (p.101)
In this quote, Marcus highlights how life is too short to get hung up on minor failures. We start from practically nothing, and in the end, we turn into nothing. In his book, Setiya says,
“No one’s life can be reduced to one event, no enterprise, or one ambition.” (p. 94) What defines us is how we choose to move forward and use the time we have left.

Another prominent philosopher is
Socrates. Socrates
said,
“Falling down is not a failure. Failure comes when you stay where you have fallen.” Socrates was mocked, put on trial, and ultimately sentenced to death. Yet he held firm to his beliefs, never allowing society’s judgment to shake what he regarded as meaningful to him.

And finally, the last philosopher whom we can look to when we are feeling defeated is
Zeno of Citium.
Zeno grew up in a wealthy merchant family and had everything he could have wanted. However, he was involved in a terrible shipwreck and unfortunately lost all of his money and clothes he owned. Instead of giving up, Zeno moved to Athens, where he began to learn about philosophy under his mentor
Crates of Thebes. Through this process, he discovered that his now lost physical money did not equate to happiness. Zeno
said,
“Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” Zeno was able to turn a bad situation into a positive one and find value in working through the process,
never consumed by the goal.

Conclusion
Everyone
will fail at
something. It’s
not a matter of if;
it’s a matter of when. But when you fail, remember that
these failures should not be the defining characteristics of your life. Always get back up, find your purpose, and find joy in the hardships of life.

Your life will
not be a linear path; there will be moments where you feel great for a while and other times where you feel absolutely terrible. The point is always to keep your head up and focus on what you must do in the
present,
not the
future.
And finally, don’t overvalue your monetary possessions. They’re called “monetary” for a reason.
“You will never see a U-Haul behind a hearse.” -Denzel Washington, and because of that, work towards goals that will benefit your thinking and mind. Do atelic activities that might not yield a reward but help you develop an indomitable perspective on life.

Ultimately, we are not remembered for the times we got
everything right, but
for the courage we showed when everything went wrong.
So
keep failing and
never give up Discussion questions:
1. Knowing that failure is often the way to success, is it okay to purposely let someone fail if we can help them succeed?
2. When people fail in a society (poverty, imprisonment, etc.), is it their personal or societal failure?
3. Does political idealism inevitably lead to failure because of human nature?